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“Does Rihanna have a responsibility to girls to deal with her abuse in such a way as to make a statement against abusers?”

Rihanna, being a teen influence and role model to many young girls does have the responsibility to make a strong statement against abusers. By Rihanna going back to Chris Brown, she is telling all girls that it is normal to be abused by someone you are supposed to trust. As a victim of abuse, she has the responsibility to take a stand. Sure she is a girl and just an entertainer but she is in a position where many people are influenced by her decisions and look up to her as a “role model”. This pressure comes automatically when you are in the spotlight of the media.

There have been many crazy rumours about the Rihanna-Brown issue from Rihanna being pregnant to Brown proposing to her after a teary reconciliation. They even called a minister to the mansion they were staying at to get married on the spot and complete her fairy tale. There have also been rumours of Rihanna and Brown co-authoring a book together about domestic abuse or travelling from talk show to talk show talking about career rehabilitations. Another outrageous rumour is that they have made sex tapes and Rihanna is worried that they may leak onto the internet at any time. Majority of these rumours are false and have no credibility behind them. It shows that people love making up stories to gain attention and we the listeners will believe anything we see or hear without doing any of our own research behind it. People forget that these are all just rumours and speculation to help with our cravings of gossip. It is true that they have reconciled and are working things out.

The recent news is that the couple has decided to take a ‘’break’’ which may have more to do with the couple only wanting to continue their careers. They did reconcile and spend time together at Sean “Diddy” Combs house after the assault. With her reputation and maybe even her career on the line, staying away from Brown may be her best chance to win the public’s respect and affection. She threw it all away when she decided to go back to Brown, even though the public wished she would not have gone back. This break is a great opportunity for her to recuperate and reflect on her life, her career, and her relationship.

Many disagree with Rihannas’ choice because she is not taking a stance against abusers but I believe she is taking a stance of her own. Rihanna has been highly criticized for her decisions but I believe her undertone message for going back to Chris Brown is forgiveness and love. We live in a society where it is hard to forgive and forget and love is just as complicated and almost impossible. What does she gain from completely leaving Brown? After all of the time she has put into the relationship, it is nearly impossible to let something go that is so close to you. She chose to forgive instead of a grudge. She chose love over hate and as a powerful woman we must respect and understand her decisions. If you are a true fan then you would support her every move and decision she makes. She faced the criticism and stands by what she sang:
"When the sun shines,
We’ll shine together
Told you I'll be here forever
Said I'll always be a friend
Took an oath I'ma stick it out till the end
Now that it's raining more than ever
Know that we'll still have each other".

Actress Archives. Rihanna and Chris Brown Taking a 'Break'. 19 Mar. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009 .

Tucker, Ken. Oprah Winfrey: My Rihanna, Chris Brown Show 'a Huge, Teachable Moment'. 12 Mar. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009 .
Bartolomeo, Joey. Rihanna and Chris Brown Taking Time Apart. 19 Mar. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009 .
Star News. Rihanna and Chris' Secret Wedding. 4 Mar. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009 .

Carter, Shawn., Christopher Stewart, and Thaddis Harrel . Rihanna-Umbrella. 05 Oct. 2008. 28 Mar. 2009 .
Right Celebrity. Rihanna Herpes Rumour: Chris Brown STDs False. 14 Feb. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009 .
Dougherty, Robert. Chris Brown and Rihanna Marriage Rumors Spread. 09 Mar. 2009. 28 Mar. 2009
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